Time pressure and deadlines are familiar to us all – and it doesn’t matter whether it’s work, running households or managing kids – where there is life, there is someone cramming as much into it as possible!
Chucking a Mono is taking precious time to step out of the fray and regroup. It is most definitely NOT the time you spend in a supermarket after the drop off and it’s not the quick lunch or coffee you have with a school mum or your bestie (although that’s important too!) Chucking a Mono is bonafide, planned, selfish, replenishing ALONE time that will make you better at all your ‘we’ times? Not sure where to even start? ……..
1. It has to be you, and you alone. Your family will be fine about this if you are. Admitting you need the time out from kids/work/family/life is usually easy – taking it is the hard part, and doing it guilt free is even harder. Sometimes we think they will fall apart if we’re not there…..
2. Talk about it! Involving your kids in your passions allows them to feel connected to you. With enough of a heads up, they will cope. They may need time to get used to the idea, but will be fine (if you are).
3. Repeat “Boundaries are good!” morning, noon and night. Although, they are egocentric and want you there always, your example is ultimately freeing them up to make self-loving choices in their own grown up lives.
4. Distance lends perspective (like do I have to yell like a banshee when Miss daughter takes ten minutes to find her school bag) and gives you time to breathe and create solutions to problems.
6. Bribing isn’t such a bad thing and it totally works. If you are being expected to learn an adult concept, then it’s nice to have something to look forward to. I make sure my mono time is always followed by some focused ‘them time’.
7. Exercise is the perfect Mono Mama option. It’s regular and it’s good for you! Mix it up and have a little navel gazing on a treadmill, or lose yourself in the energy of your Spin instructor.
8. No guilt allowed. At all. Ever. It helps to list all the reasons why a healthy, relaxed you is a good idea. Read it every morning.
We’ve all had the “oh, don’t we have a nice life” digs and I totally remember feeling the need to justify myself for taking a moment on my own …and why? According to Beyond Blues (www.beyondblue.com.au) 1 in 6 of us will suffer depression and 1 in 4 of us anxiety in our lives. The cost to the economy is billions and the impact on families can be devastating. Seeking professional help is paramount if you think you’re suffering depression, but good diet and regular exercise is one thing scientifically proven to reduce symptoms and possibly stave it off for good.
We do need time with friends and family, but don’t forget to bring on the Mono time too!
If it’s time to sort out your training schedule or you need help fitting it all in, give me a call on 0450331449 or email me,… if you don’t take care of you – then who will? . For some fun #inspo click here.